Damn, that's bad news bro
I hope you get your issue resolved. I was thinking about SLi'ing too. I might just go for the new 9series if it's not too much $ and sell this 8800
Also, you shouldn't expect double your 3Dmark scores. I've heard that when you SLi, it's only a 160% increase of what you used to get. Kind of sucks.
But don't give up. I'm pretty sure there's something missing. Make sure SLi is enabled through your nVidia control panel. Same for every other option that enables it.
Make sure your PSU and motherboard are SLi ready too. Sometimes that bottlenecks it as well.